To be Pollyanna or not? This main question is sometimes silly but always real for everyone. What are the bad moments in life? Getting late for work and everything, morning syndrome, received bills regularly but no letters, have a lot of neighbours, co-workers but no real friends, being about to cry and have no one to call and be with, feeling lonely without a reasonable reason or with very reasonable reasons, need to pay a lot of bills and have no money , quarrel with people who you don’t recognize anywhere in life, being stucked in heavy traffic or rush hours in life, miss your mom, to realise that you have no best friend to tell your dreams anymore, walking at night and stand on a banana peel, let people break your heart, falling and need someone to stand up and notice there is no one to help, people who watching your sadness and say ”I am sorry”, enjoying your blue mood and actually never care about you but seem as your friends or whatever? The only thing mainly we can do favour for ourselves is playing glad game and never lose our soul. Trying to stand on our own legs and going on breathing with our belief. There are some very important times in all our life that we can say before and after, like before I lost my mom and after it. Life changes according to faith stream. Sometimes we can change nothing, we are just obligued to watch what happens to us and try to live and be stronger even than before. If we don’t care about ourselves, believe me that no one cares, either. Imagine that you have a terrible accident and your only belonging, your car is damaged , yes you may worry about your savings but never much more than your health, you might have been injured or caused another’s death and so on. To think in this way may take time but if you decide on standing your own existence, then you will find the right way, easily. We must find the main power in our heart, some friends may worry about us and try to cure our soul, but they can’t do it as you can do for a long time. If you are sad mostly, they may get bored of you and your problems and you might have fewer friends in time by being a sorrowful one. It hurts but the reality of modern life goes like that. Even you have a lot of problems , think that you would have more and more , if you don’t bear all bad moments and get your bearings and try to walk again as if you have never lived bad things. Being a student in life class is endless but to be a good student we must live hard and try to enjoy, don’t make all hours worse than they are actually. Imagine someone who lost all his family but he tries to hold on life even he is completely alone now. There is no one to say hello when he comes home, no one to eat dinner together, no one to share bad and good moments, no one to eat breakfast, no one to say bye when he leaves home and no one says “take care!”, but he walks along the street to work every morning because he believes that he needs to go on living. Living bad moments, try to remember this very lonely man and walk wherever life takes you without stopping. We must do whatever we can do, but the last thing is to put faith in life and being as strong as we can. Finally, I decide on being Pollyanna. What about you?

How Can I Cope With Bad Moments In Life ?
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What makes you upset? Are you a quick-tempered or an easygoing one? Whether you get angry easily or get unhappy sentimentally, you should find a way not to mind a lot to lose your life minutes more. It is difficult but not impossible. Worrying very often may make you ill and unhappy. Of course to be troubled is common and a need to be a man, but when you feel bad about everything as a habit, that means you have one more real thing to worry about – Your bad habit, getting sad. You’re calling your love and the phone is off, you get sad and doubtful. You break your just polished nail and you begin to nag, you miss the green traffic light and yell ”what a terrible day!”, you spill a cup of coffee on your new dress, you begin to cry, as you see getting sad might be because of endless reasons if you want to do it. A feeling of sadness is natural, but getting sad very often is definitely not usual to live happily in daily life. Otherwise, life would be unbearable. Take some bad things easy in routine, find some ways to cope with stress and being upset. You may regret at the end of the day because you lose all your day and night hours by getting upset about bad things which you may not find later as bad as you think. Try not to lose your own lifetime, life is not as long as to be sad for every detail. Years later, one day you might say ” I wish I hadn’t been so upset so many times …” It is never too late to get the life that you might have, so try to be as happy as you can… Don’t you mind and love yourself? Who would love and care you more than yourself? Don’t get upset because your last bonbon is eaten.

What Makes You Upset?
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